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Guest Post from Crystal Lake Pastor

April 19, 2010

Rev. David Inglis

Rev. David Inglis, associate minister of the First Congregational Church of Crystal Lake, offers the following guest post:

Throughout history, people have joined their lives together in marriage; sadly, some have married for unfortunate reasons like politics, property exchange, or material gain. How wonderful, then, that two people might choose to join their lives in a sacred covenant before assembled witnesses for no other reason than love. How amazing that a couple would invite God to be present in that marriage. And how tragic that strangers would use the God of love as a weapon of hatred against those who want only to celebrate their love and be respected for that.

Jesus never commanded us to hate one another. Jesus never commanded us not to marry the one we love. Jesus did command that we love one another (John 15:12). Almost all of the time my wife and I spend together as a married couple is non-sexual. Most of our time together is spent working to keep our house clean, food on the table, children cared for, and careers kept on track. Our more intimate moments are more often spent snuggling in front of the TV than in the bedroom. Sex occupies a very small portion of our time together. And it’s no one else’s business when or how we make love. It should be no one else’s business even had I married a man, or if she had married a woman.

When the rules got in the way of love and compassion, Jesus broke the rules. And when Jesus broke the rules, it wasn’t only the laws of Moses regarding ritual defilement, or food preparation. He broke one of the Ten Commandments, written by the finger of God on stone tables brought down from Mount Sinai by Moses to the Hebrew people wandering in the wilderness. Jesus broke the commandment to “Remember the sabbath day, and keep it holy” (Exodus 20:8). The disciples picked food to eat, and Jesus healed on the sabbath (rf. Matthew 12:1-14). If the law permits two consenting adults to join their lives as one, and prohibits two other consenting adults from the same privilege, the law is unjust and must be challenged, changed, and if necessary, broken.

“Indeed, God did not send the Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him” (John 3:17). Those who would use the Bible to condemn others bring dishonor to Christ. Those who participate in a Christian marriage ceremony (a service of worship offered to God), no matter the gender, race, or national origin of the couple, bring more love into the world. May the love of any two people who choose to join their lives in marriage be a true reflection of God’s love for us all.